Posts Tagged ‘parenting’

Why Shouldn’t I Spank My Child?

Thursday, August 18th, 2011

Abuse Survivor Offers Tips For Alternative Punishments

By Ginny Grimsley

Esther Joseph doesn’t need to read studies or statistics to understand the problems of child abuse. She survived it.

Joseph, an advocate against corporal punishment in the home, spent her childhood alternately suffering physical abuse from her mother and emotional abuse from her father. But she doesn’t consider herself a victim.

“I’m a survivor of child abuse,” said Joseph, author of Memories of Hell, Visions of Heaven—A Story of Survival Transformation and Hope (www.unityinherited.com). “In overcoming the damage of an upbringing riddled with violence, I was adamant that I would not grow up to be an abuser, as well. I know the dangers of striking a child to discipline them and then explaining that you’re doing it for their own good and because you love them. All that does is teach the child that violence is an acceptable part of love, and as they grow up, they accept violence in their adult relationships because they’ve been taught that it’s completely normal.”

Joseph believes that discipline is important, but that it can be delivered without making violence an acceptable part of life. (more…)

Our Finger Sucking Journey

Wednesday, March 30th, 2011

To start our journey of finger sucking I am going to start from the very beginning.  When our oldest daughter was born my husband decided NO binkies were allowed.  I didn’t question this decision he has a son and I figured he knew something I didn’t.   At 4 months old on the very same day I pierced my daughters ears she started sucking her 2 middle fingers.  At the time this was cute, adorable even.  This habit was her way of soothing herself.   (more…)

How Moms Can Create Big Changes

Thursday, November 4th, 2010

The power of moms. You have to read this article and find out for yourself  the power of moms. I found this article in About Working Moms one of my Linkedin groups. It was shared by Carolyn Parrs.

Bubble, Bubble, Toil and Trouble: How Moms Create Their Own Tipping Point For Change, by Mary Clare Hunt

Click on the title and read the whole article. If you have kids or grandkids you will be very impressed by the actions these moms took. They put child safety about money. I am so proud of them for taking a stand against promoting dangerous ingredients in a children’s product. Thieir story is inspirational.

As the Season Change so do Our Lifes

Saturday, October 9th, 2010

I found this story on Mamapedia and it expressed my feelings of the season change so well I wanted to share it with you. The picture is the color of Payson, UT last weekend.

Changing Seasons: A Lesson in Letting Go

Donna Scrima-Black of “MommyBest” 

Donna Scrima-Black is an author (MommyBest: 13 Inspirational Lessons Derek & Dylan’s Mom (and maybe yours) Never Learned in School) and mom.

Although I feel excited by change, whether it’s the seasons or a different place to vacation, I often struggle with adjusting to the varying conditions that accompany it.

I still remember those “butterflies” in my stomach during the first month of school, when I was a student and after I became a teacher. Family, friends and even strangers often warned me time would be fleeting when my children were born. I never really understood why I heard this comment so much.

Then I realized, until you experience parenting first hand, it’s hard to imagine the brevity of each magical moment. To all new moms and dads, please know baby’s first few years truly are over in what seems to be a mere blink of the eye—so enjoy them as much as you can! (more…)

Public Bathroom Tips with Children

Monday, October 4th, 2010

I was traveling this weekend and had some bad experiences with public restrooms so this morning when I found this article at Mamapedia I had to share it with you. I hope you can relate and that it makes you laugh, too. Here is the link http://www.mamapedia.com/voices/never-underestimate-the-joys-of-a-public-bathroom-with-two-kids?fbc1=1 I was traveling to see the wonderful colors of the autumn leaves. I will post some pictures for you soon.

Never Underestimate the Joys of a Public Bathroom with Two Kids by Alex Iwashyna

As an avid caffeine drinker and a mother of two young children, I spend an exorbitant amount of time in the bathroom (mostly trying to shirk my parenting duties).

So I’m sharing some public bathroom tips to at least give you the heads up to not touch me or my children post-pee. (more…)

Help Your Child Learn Empathy

Monday, August 30th, 2010

This is the perfect time to share this poem with your kids as they go back to school.

Somewhere out there is Laura.  I don’t know anything about her except that she wrote this poignant poem titled “I Am”.  The poem has been used in anti bullying campaigns around the world, and today I’d like to share it with you.

I AM

I am the person you bullied in school
I am the one who didn’t know how to be cool
I am the person you alienated
I am the person you ridiculed and hated

I am the person who sat on their own
I am the person who walked home alone
I am the person you scared every day
I am the person who had nothing to say (more…)

5 Parenting Pointers about Kids and Movie Ratings

Tuesday, August 17th, 2010

Last weekend I was surfing through some of the free movie channels that my satellite company was trying to woo me with.  I stumbled onto the 2008 movie The Love Guru and watched for about 10 minutes only to find my jaw pasted to the floor in mortified disbelief.  This MPAA rated PG-13 movie was nowhere near appropriate for a 13 year old.   It had extreme sexual innuendo, profanity, and a boy who says “I want to be a guru so girls will like me and then I will like myself”.  Really?  In addition to finding themselves a shade of crimson, most adults I know would find such content highly inappropriate for impressionable teens and younger siblings who are often grandfathered in to a movie.  I’m not going to write about what I saw, because my mother will be reading this blog and I don’t want to offend her or, for that matter, you, dear reader! (Later, I’ll give you a website recommendation that you can use if you choose to read about Love Guru on your own.)

What if your child was invited to see this movie and you assumed it would be acceptable just because of the PG 13 rating?  How do you know that the movies your children are viewing are appropriate to your value system as opposed to the fiscally motivated values of Hollywood Producer or a robotic MPAA rating panel?

Here are 5 suggestions to help parents stay a step ahead of Hollywood and kids who say “all my friends are seeing the movie… why can’t I?” (more…)

Help Your Child with Brain Development

Wednesday, August 11th, 2010

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It is Deborah’s belief that every child has great potential that can be developed when we have an understanding of how children’s brains develop. Deborah has devoted her life to providing programs and materials that create this awareness for parents and educators.

Deborah has taught kindergarten, and pre-school. She has also created an innovative community based program called, Family Network. This service provided information and resources to parents and educators by pulling the entire community together in support of the needs of families. She has been the coordinator of a family literacy program that provided high school completion and English as a second language, early childhood education and parent education, for in-need families. This included creating a jail parent program, a home tutoring program, and an at-risk teens parenting program.

She taught in the early childhood associate degree program for several years and most recently has, as the early childhood specialist for the Wisconsin Council on Children and Families, provided numerous presentations on brain development.


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When I Have Children…

Tuesday, June 8th, 2010

I came across this post yesterday at Love Imagine Create

http://www.loveimaginecreate.com/ by Holly Renee

I really enjoyed it and I thought you would too.

I loved the comparison of parenting our children to nurturing our own inner child.

I am going through a chapter in my life with some big changes.  As I contemplate these changes I have been pondering or evaluating exactly where I am at with these issues. This post was just what I needed to hear. I love how the exact information comes to you when you need it. Thank you Holly for sharing. I hope all of you moms will enjoy her post. Make sure you visit her site. She has some great posts.

When I Have Children…

When I have children I want them to be happy, to feel unconditionally loved, to love their own body, to be comfortable expressing themselves, to feel safe, to dream big, to have true friends, to laugh, to learn how to be independent, to feel grateful, to have a sense of humor, to appreciate nature, to know how to share, to love animals, to treat others well, to marry the spouse of their dreams, to let their imagination run wild, to be accepting, to know who they are, to learn patience, to play, to be healthy, to understand where other people are coming from, to listen to their hearts, to respect other’s beliefs, to be creative, to forgive, to celebrate, and to grow. (more…)